Wagon Guy bangs head on desk because he really neeeeds more stupid drama in his life...

"Wagon Guy drives a Boostang" (gimmeboost)
07/19/2018 at 05:39 • Filed to: None

This is my dog Skye. She’s the Kinja safety image I’m going to post before a long story involving my kids and a bunch of stupid teenage drama.

A bit over a week ago I posted about the issues with my youngest teenage daughter and her deadbeat boyfriend.

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Daughter is 17. Back when she was six months old she developed a high fever from a kidney infection, the result of which was surgery to correct a defect in her bladder. Up until yesterday she had never had another infection and knew very well the things she needed to do to avoid them. I got text messages from the ex-wife who was in the hospital with the kid who had been admitted with a 105 degree fever.

I called her back to find out what was going on and what the next steps were. She and the daughter were going at it over mom asking for some tests that we know are available and non-invasive that haven’t been performed yet. That will get followed up in the morning with the appropriate medical personnel. Then of course the ex had one more issue to discuss.

She wants me to demand my “two weeks summer visitation” this year. She doesn’t want to come across as the bad guy, but she wants to get some distance between the daughter and the deadbeat.

I confirmed a few details about the deadbeat.
1. He has no high school diploma, and is “only two classes short”.
2. His parents really did kick him out.
3. His dad is a cop and a marine. Supposedly is really strict.
4. said teenage daughter has been begging her mom to let the deadbeat stay with them. “He slept on the street last night.”
5. the deadbeat kid has been known to drive the daughter’s car.

The ex and I are both concerned that our daughter is waiting until she’s 18 thinking that she’ll move out on her own and in with the deadbeat. That she doesn’t see the dangers and problems in this, despite being in the top 5% of her high school class. My former wife is going to ask for the phone number of the father of this deadbeat kid to talk to him about this situation. So far we both agree that if he had his diploma we would have dropped him off at the recruiter’s office. We both served in the Army, his dad in the Marine Corps, this kid needs to get his shit together like only a drill sergeant and no other options will do for him.

The plan at the moment is that after the kid is released from the hospital, the wiser older daughter will drive her younger sister to my house to spend a couple of weeks with me and her grandparents, while mom lays down the law with the deadbeat. We’ll see if that works. I only know the R omeo and Juliet thing, when the parents deny the kids what they want, they go out and do worse...

DISCUSSION (17)

pip bip - choose Corrour > Wagon Guy drives a Boostang
07/19/2018 at 05:54

good luck!

hopefully she drops him like a tonne of bricks.

Wagon Guy drives a Boostang > pip bip - choose Corrour
07/19/2018 at 06:06

Thanks. I’m going to need it. The good part is that when the daughter gets to my house I have some projects for her to keep her busy for a while.

TheBloody, Oppositelock lives on in our shitposts. > Wagon Guy drives a Boostang
07/19/2018 at 07:17

Well, if this break doesn't work you can always say the current situation is a 100% no but you'd maybe drop that to a 60% no if he gets his GED and signs up for the army. Or maybe the Navy as they tend to be confined to the ship alot of the time.

Echo51 > Wagon Guy drives a Boostang
07/19/2018 at 07:35

Is deadbeat kid aware you’re both ex-army? Cuz’ that have me scared halfway shitless over wronging both of you even more :D

Good luck with the mini-work-cation for her, might just be the thing she needs to get away from bad influences and such, despite her probably complaining a lot at first...

Liam Farrell > TheBloody, Oppositelock lives on in our shitposts.
07/19/2018 at 08:36

I’m thinking submarine would be ideal

Wagon Guy drives a Boostang > TheBloody, Oppositelock lives on in our shitposts.
07/19/2018 at 08:38

He needs to get his diploma, then go to whatever service will take him. I’m thinking 11B infantry...

Wagon Guy drives a Boostang > Echo51
07/19/2018 at 08:40

I’m pretty sure he is aware. I’m just waiting for the ex to talk to his dad about why the kid is out on the street, since his dad was a Marine he has to have some sort of perspective on this...

shop-teacher > Wagon Guy drives a Boostang
07/19/2018 at 08:40

Oye. Good luck, that's a tough situation. I think you have the best course of action planned out though.

OpposResidentLexusGuy - USE20, XF20, XU30 and Press Cars > Wagon Guy drives a Boostang
07/19/2018 at 09:20

You’re a much more patient person than I... I’d be heading to Houston full Apocalypse Now style...

punkgoose17 > Wagon Guy drives a Boostang
07/19/2018 at 09:22

Best of luck. Hopefully her time with you helps her.

Spanfeller is a twat > Wagon Guy drives a Boostang
07/19/2018 at 09:33

I hope the daughter turns out OK out of the ordeal, and I hope the deadbeat would stop stalking her.

Have the daughter’s friends chimed in to talk to her?

Azrek > Wagon Guy drives a Boostang
07/19/2018 at 11:46

As a guy with 0 kids and no interest in them...however, I always dislike being told what to do...here is my recommendation
- Get the sister and friends involved. They are more on their level and not from a ‘position of authority’.
- Ask about future plans and goals. It is tough to see future plans as a teen, but sometimes the perspective is eye opening.

Wagon Guy drives a Boostang > Azrek
07/19/2018 at 18:03

I absolutely agree with you. Parents interfering in relationship issues rarely works out the way they want.

Wagon Guy drives a Boostang > Spanfeller is a twat
07/19/2018 at 18:05

That I don’t know. According to the ex the friends don’t come around anymore.

His Stigness > Wagon Guy drives a Boostang
07/20/2018 at 13:49

As someone who doesn’t have kids, and is technically an adult, I don’t get the notion of kicking your kid out, especially if they’re classified as strict. I just see it as giving up on your kid. If you’ve kicked them out, then you have no control, nor any hope of turning their life around. I would see it as more productive to keep them under your roof and hound their every single step until they pull their head out of their ass and straighten up.

But, I don't have kids, so I can't judge, but it's just my thought.

Wagon Guy drives a Boostang > His Stigness
07/20/2018 at 14:48

I think it’s a good thought.

DJHeadphonesKid > His Stigness
08/07/2018 at 10:46

Sometime getting kicked out is the action that can turn the kids life around. Speaking from experience.